Thursday, July 23, 2015
Perspective on Other Sinners
Here it is- If I want to, I can nit pick any person alive. I can point out faults about anyone. In fact, there isn't a single co-worker who I couldn't pick apart & find plenty of fault with. Even more, there isn't a single employee of mine who hasn't done something that they could be fired over. Even my best employees make mistakes, get into bad moods, and sometimes cost the company money.
BUT, they could say the exact same thing about me too. I make mistakes daily. I cost the company money sometimes. I too get moody, do things that aren't "employee of the year" worthy.
The fact is that people make mistakes. People miss the mark. People sin. Speaking of sin, The Bible teaches that all have sinned and fall short of God's glorious standard (Romans 3:23). The Lord, who sees what we do in public and private, could surely nitpick us to pieces. In fact, He even knows our diabolical, self-serving, and fearful motives. He could instantly destroy any of us at any time, because we are always screwing something up.
Here is the rub, so how come I don't fire people who make mistakes? How come I don't knit pick people? And on the other hand, why is it that some people, who have been continually forgiven by the Lord, so quick to criticize and devour others? Why is it that some shred people while others seem to see the good side of people?
A couple examples-
1. Terrible Terry- Before I even met this co-worker (identity changed), he disliked me. I could feel his eye upon me. Watching, nitpicking, judging, condemning. No matter what I did to win his perspective, it was futile. I was hosed! Unless HE changed his attitude toward me, nothing-not angels, nor demons, neither gold, lattes, or silver could change this graceless attitude. I tried to change it, but I ended up wasting six years of effort (sarcasm- it wasn't wasted, they were burning coals to this person, I did my part, before the Lord to live at peace).
2. Cruddy Curly- This person did not get along with one of my relatives. Is my relative perfect? Heck no. They have more issues than a magazine. BUT, they also have redeemable qualities, just as Cruddy Curly has. Does she see people through eyes of grace? Yes, but only those who she "connects" with. She has just enough friends and is just nice enough to a select few, in order to feel justified in her critical actions toward others who deserve it.
So, how do we get past nitpicking and become a person of love and grace? After all, love covers over a multitude of sins.
Here is what I do as a manager:
1. I believe that ALL of us have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
2. There is only one person who is perfect, and it isn't me. It is Jesus.
3. Understand that we are all in process.
4. Understand that people are in different places in this journey of life. For example- some are children of God, some are not yet. Some are mature in their faith, some are not. Some are dealing with things, some are dealing with other things. Some have baggage to work through, some have great baggage to work through.
5. Understand that we are all fearfully & wonderfully made (Psalm 139). God has wired us uniquely. I need to learn to appreciate the diversity of personality.
6. I know there is an enemy out there who is battling the Lord for the souls of people.
7. I choose to keep focused on the big picture.
8. If someone has a major issue, that is affecting the workplace & bringing disharmony, I come alongside to help them develop. I give them room to grow. However, after several conversations, I still may need to have a formal meeting with them. But it is NEVER over something preferential or small. The issue has to be significant enough to affect even the big picture.
9. I pray for people who have major things they are working through.
10. Because of all these things that I practice daily, I seldom get frustrated with others, unless it is a BIG thing.
So, how about you? Do you, when you are frustrated with someone, choose to see only the negatives? Do you put them on your dart board? Do you become the eye of Sauron search to tear them to pieces? And if so, why? Why, when God has overlooked your huge amount of grievances? Let's keep the big picture in mind and enjoy harmony. Let's learn to see the good in people, and if absolutely necessary, only confront big destructive things.
Jesus loves you too.
Further reading- Jesus' teaching in Matthew 18:21-35